Type two names
Yours and theirs, or any two people you are curious about. Upper or lower case, spaces and punctuation make no difference, and the order of the names does not matter. A band starts weaving as you type.
Relationship CalculatorFree Relationship Calculator
Partner, parent, best friend, boss or rival: type two names, pick the relationship and get a bond score with a reading, small ideas and a woven band. A game just for fun, with five questions for a reading that uses your answers, cards to play together and nothing uploaded.
How strong is your bond?
Partner, parent, best friend, boss, even your rival. Type two names and pick how they are connected to get a score, a reading and a woven band made from the names. The score is a game, just for fun.
Type both names to weave your bond band.
What's the relationship?
Play together
Pass the device back and forth, or play over a call. No right answers, only good stories.
ChangeDone
The score is a game for fun: it comes from the two names and the relationship you pick, and from your answers when you take the five questions. Everything you type stays in this browser on this device; nothing is uploaded.
How to Use the Relationship Calculator
Pick the relationship
Choose from over 70, in groups from love and family to work and rivals, or search with everyday words such as mom, bestie or boss. Something else lets you name your own.
Calculate the bond
Press Calculate this bond for a score with a short reading, five parts with one marked as room to grow, a small idea to try and a message you can copy and send.
Answer five questions
For a reading that uses your answers, take the five questions made for that kind of bond. Your answers then set a little over half of the score.
Share a bond card
Make a picture with both names, the score and your woven band, then save it or send it from your phone. It is drawn on your device.
Play and keep your circle
Play who is more likely or talk cards for two, and find every bond in My circle with a small step for each day and nine badges to earn.
Why Use This Relationship Calculator?
🎲 Honest about the score
It says under every result what the score is made of. The same two names always get the same score, so nobody can press again for a better number.
👪 Any two people
Parents and children, grandparents, siblings, in-laws, friends, colleagues, mentors, rivals, exes and even a pet, each with its own reading and ideas.
💬 Ideas for today
A small thing to try, a message to send and a daily step from your circle: easy reasons to call, visit or say thank you this week.
🧵 A band of your own
Each pair of names weaves a coloured band, shown with the result and on the picture card you can save or share.
🃏 Games for two
Who is more likely and talk cards in decks for couples, family, friends and work, made for one phone or a call.
🔒 Nothing uploaded
There is no account and no upload. Names, answers and your circle stay in this browser on this device, and one button clears them.
Relationship Calculators Explained
🔢 How a bond score is made
Name games like this are old party fun. This one writes both names in small letters, sorts them, joins them with the relationship and mixes the letters into a number with a fixed formula. A seeded number generator then gives the score and its five parts. Nothing about the people goes into it, which is why it is a game and not a measurement.
📝 What the five questions add
The questions ask about everyday things, such as how disagreements end or who hears your good news first. Each answer counts 3, 2, 1 or 0 and together they set 55 percent of the score. That makes the result reflect your own view a little, but it is still a game, not a test of anyone.
💑 Beside the Love Calculator
The Love Calculator is a name game for couples only, with a twelve-statement relationship check-in, cards for couples and a count of your days together. The Relationship Calculator works for any two people, from parents, siblings and in-laws to colleagues, rivals, exes and pets, with five questions made for each kind of bond, a woven band and a picture to share, a circle that keeps every bond with a small step for each day, and cards for family, friends and work. Both say plainly that their name scores are a game.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is the Relationship Calculator accurate?
No calculator can measure a relationship, and this one does not try. The quick score is a game made from the two names and the relationship you pick: the same names always get the same score, in either order, and it knows nothing else about you. If you answer the five questions, your answers set a little over half of the score and the name game the rest. Enjoy it as a bit of fun and a reason to reach out to someone.
How is the score worked out?
Both names are written in small letters with spaces, punctuation and invisible characters left out, put in alphabetical order and joined with the relationship. A fixed mixing formula turns that into a starting number for a seeded number generator, which gives a score from 62 to 99 for most relationships, a peace score from 52 to 98 for exes and a rivalry heat from 38 to 99 for rivals. The five parts of the breakdown are spread around the same score.
What do the five questions change?
Each answer counts from 3 for the first choice down to 0 for the last. Your answers become a share between 0 and 1, which sets 55 percent of the score (on a range from 55 to 100, or 30 to 100 for a rivalry); the name game sets the other 45 percent. So the same names can score higher or lower depending on how you answer. The questions are made for each kind of bond: couples, family, friends, work, rivals, exes and crushes.
What is the woven band?
A pattern of coloured threads made from the two names. Each name gets its own thread colour, and both names together pick a third colour, the thread widths and one of five weaves. The same two names always weave the same band, in either order; with many millions of possible pairs, some other pairs share a band.
Can I use it for a rival or an ex?
Yes. For rivals the score becomes rivalry heat with a chance of peace, and for an ex a peace score; the ideas aim to cool things down or help you move on. If someone has hurt you or you feel unsafe, skip the hellos and messages: you owe them nothing, and keeping your distance is fine.
Are the names I type sent anywhere?
No. The names, your answers, My circle, the steps you mark done and your badges are kept only in this browser on this device, and nothing is uploaded. The bond card is drawn on your device too. Clear my circle removes them.
How is it different from the Love Calculator?
The Love Calculator is a name game for couples only, with a twelve-statement relationship check-in, cards for couples and a count of your days together. The Relationship Calculator works for any two people, from parents, siblings and in-laws to colleagues, rivals, exes and pets, with five questions made for each kind of bond, a woven band and a picture to share, a circle that keeps every bond with a small step for each day, and cards for family, friends and work. Both say plainly that their name scores are a game.